Why nonbinary people deserve love
4 min readFeb 10, 2022
In an effort to write more love letters to my genderfree//full//queer community — I was inspired to write this post about nonbinary folks deserving love.
People often get so tied up in understanding every nuance of our being that they forget how important radical acceptance and unconditional love are in this mix.
You don’t have to understand the whole gender spectrum to understand this person is worthy of your love and support!
For my genderqueeroes — this is for you.
32 reasons why nonbinary people deserve love
Because nonbinary folks’ gender exceeds the expanse of a binary universe
Because our gender is not a transition or stepping stone in any direction
Because nonbinary as a gender did not start and will not end with white people at its center — it is beyond and outside of the clutches of white supremacy
Because we choose to embrace uncertainty in our being for certainty in our future
Because what we’ve found outweighs what we’ve lost or released
Because being nonbinary isn’t hard, but being around cisgender people is
Because we have the power and audacity to imagine gender in the future unconstrained by society
Because nonbinary parents raise gender-expansive children and break cycles of misinformation
Because nonbinary individuals don’t owe anyone an explanation of their self
Because nonbinary people are artists and singers and dancers and poets and teachers and lawyers
Because one-day nonbinary people won’t have to give a presentation about their gender to come out
Because nonbinary people are funny
Because some nonbinary people get gender-affirming surgeries, and some never do — and that’s okay
Because nonbinary people are finding new ways to educate others
Because being genderqueer is not only an experience, but a state of mind, and a belief
Because being nonbinary is not about clothes and appearances — but about our hearts and minds
Because there are nonbinary adults, children, teenagers, and elders who are all challenging gender norms
Because genderqueer folks have persevered through the centuries
Because white cisgender historians have tried to erase nonbinary and transgender individuals from our past
Because nonbinary people are entrepreneurs
Because no matter how we found love in the past, we are still nonbinary
Because cisgender people don’t understand how exhausting it is to be “valid” all the time
Because nonbinary people are curious
Because nonbinary people are fat and queer and disabled and Black and Indigenous
Because nonbinary people intersect with every queer identity
Because nonbinary people are nerds (affectionately)
Because nonbinary people are often alone and isolated from each other
Because too many genderqueer children thought, “I am the only one like this”, and they were wrong
Because too many cisgender parents ignored their children’s autonomy and need for consent to gender them at will
Because nonbinary people create and inspire where others see no opportunities for change
Because nonbinary people are re-writing a story we were told as truth when it was really just a fable all along.
Because nonbinary people understand cis-hetero-normativity does not end with their existence and are willing to challenge it every day.
